Friends, the person who has got into the habit of keeping quiet, speaking less, not reacting control himself, that person lives a very high standard life, avoids many hassles and problems, always moves forward on his path and is happy and strong, people cannot harm him.
Today I will tell you 10 such methods by which you will be able to control your mind, so that you don’t react too much, remain quiet, don’t get into unnecessary arguments, stay away from people and keep moving ahead on your path.
1. Maintaining Self-Respect in Argument
You have an argument with someone, that person is saying wrong things. He is saying stupid things. He is talking nonsense. Suddenly our mind gets disturbed. How dare he, I will not leave him and we stoop to his level and start talking in his manner. And he lowers himself to one more level. Then we have to reach there. Then he stoops further because he has no level. And ultimately when we stoop very low, even then in the end we have to accept defeat.
So friends, first imagine that I will argue with this person. So what is the result, there is no level of his thinking.So it can fall as much as you want. I have self-respect. Respect is a level, a class, I have to maintain it and not reach a situation where I become embarrassed about myself. Value your time and energy. Value your time and energy, respect your friends.
2. Staying Focused on Your Goal in the Midst of Negativity
There are many people who like to taunt. As soon as they wake up in the morning, before they breathe, a few taunts come out of their mouth. They don’t feel satisfied until they hurt someone’s heart. Their day is not complete. They only want to say a few words, God has given them. Speak as much as you want, their four words can break a person. They don’t need any gun or missile. Speak as much as you want, break people’s hearts, break their mothers, make them weak, become strong yourself.
So such people who are taunting you again and again, you are sucking our blood. You can’t do anything. It is not in your control. You are no less. You are not able to do this properly. When people start taunting you, then remove your ears, eyes and mind from there, from their mouth and from your ears, and turn them towards your goal, turn them towards your vision, take your vision to where you want to reach in life.
That is my destination. This lowly person is not my destination. Today I will react to him. I will get confused, I will get upset, I will get broken. I will agree to his words. Then who will be harmed? It is not his, it is me. I do not want to be harmed. Let him speak as much as he wants, whatever he wants. Why am I getting affected by what he says? Why am I giving him so much value? Do you want it? No matter how close he is, how close his blood relation. Relationships are made by keeping them. They are not made by blood. He is not keeping them. If he makes you sad, you should not be sad. Divert your attention from there. Collect your mind and think where do I want to reach, where is my goal? Where is my target? Where is that bird’s eye where I have to shoot the arrow and concentrate on the work.
Your success, your growth, your achievement will be the biggest answer to them. They will break down, they will fall apart and they don’t want anything else. Friends, all this is just a distraction in our life, and I am telling those people who are making their career that the work of toxic people is to just distract you, to mislead you. You should not do that.
3. The Path to Understanding, Respect and Wisdom
Friends, to understand the words of a person, to understand their intentions, to know what they want, to know their secrets, to understand their psychology, to understand the meaning of their conversation, to bring clarity, to clear their mind so that they feel good, to gain respect in their eyes, for all these things, it is necessary to listen to any person properly and completely. Without interfering, without interrupting them. A small work and countless benefits. It would be like if you invest one dollar and get a hundred, then who would not want to do such a business.
One has to bring a little self-control. So the more you listen to people, the more you will understand them, the more you can manipulate them. I am not saying this in a negative sense. It is very important to understand to get things done according to your wishes and it is also very important to gain respect in their eyes, to make friends. So take an oath. The more I can listen to others, the more I will listen. I will speak after that. I will present my point in a clear and thoughtful manner.
Friends, when a person says something wrong, stupid, our senses send a message to our mind and our mind gets disturbed. It gets scattered that we don’t have to give any reply, at that time you have to calm your mind. How will you do it, by talking to yourself, by talking to your inner self. At this time, wisdom lies in remaining silent. I don’t give any reply, I am a composed person and this is the right way, there is no benefit in arguing, there is only loss. I have to show my intelligence and wisdom. Don’t show childishness. This is my test, the test of intelligence. I will pass it. Talk to yourself. Talk like this. When the other person keeps on talking nonsense, it won’t matter to you.
4. How to Handle Toxic Family Dynamics with Grace
There are some family members who cannot see you happy. The relationship is such that they want you to be happy only then they will be happy. This is their delusion. Their way of thinking. It is very bad. But it is their way. They will look for an opportunity to humiliate you, to interrupt, to insult you. You will give one answer. They will give two. You will give two. They will give three. Who knows, they will record your conversation. They will make four people listen to it and will also prove you wrong.
They will show themselves so helpless, so troubled that the whole world will judge you. You might feel guilty.
Friends, the best way to deal with such people is to consider them non existent.
You have to talk only about the necessary things, talk about work, greet them well with respect, don’t talk about anything useless, if they are saying something, smile and go away from there, smile, keep listening, the message should reach your ears and not your heart because they have no standing in front of your eyes. If anyone starts saying something on the road, understand that what value does he have in such a person. They are talking, they are wasting their calories and energy. They are getting tired and shouting at the top of their voice. Smile. There is no bigger problem for them than this and people should be happy in their life at their own cost. Don’t give them the right to trouble you. There is no better way to deal with such people than this, argue as much as you want.
They will prove you wrong because this is their job, their mind runs on these things the whole day. Stay calm and watch them become clowns. Friends, this thing will bother you a lot in the beginning, you will feel that I have been humiliated, I have lost.
But see how great the effect will be in the long run. That person will shut his mouth. Then he will think that my words do not matter how much I speak, and gradually he will stop talking to you himself. Yes, he will become normal.
5. Master the art of speaking less through practice
Friends, the best way to adopt the habit of speaking less, the way of keeping quiet at the right time is practice. You have to start, make a commitment to yourself and gradually observe yourself and keep moving forward. The more you practice, the more you will get used to it. In the beginning, when you practice and start seeing the results, what benefits are you getting, what things are you understanding, then you will feel like doing it more.
6. Speak Less, Say More: The Power of Clear and Concise Communication
Friends, keep one thing in mind, by repeating your words again and again you are not adding value, you are not getting into the other person’s mind, you are just wasting your words, you are reducing the value. If you tell someone something clearly once, they have heard it, that is enough. Nothing happens by saying it again and again, they will not understand, they will not agree, they will have to ask. You are trying everything but nothing will happen. If someone wants to reject you, say it ten times, say it a hundred times, he will reject those words and if someone wants to accept, he will accept them in one go, and those who speak less and say clear things once, their words are heard more, always keep this in mind.
7. The Power of Silence and Adaptability in Social Life
Friends, the biggest secret of a person in social life is a closed fist. If the closed fist opens up, then it means that the less you speak, the less your secrets will come out. Your words will come out less, people will understand you less, will be less able to manipulate you. You can easily mold people according to your wishes. Like a person has a different nature than you. You mold yourself according to him to talk to him and then mold yourself according to another person because no one knows you as to what you are. If you are an open book and everyone has read it well, then people will easily understand when you are fake and when you are real.
Your personality should be such that people always keep wondering who is this, who is this, so that people cannot manipulate you, they keep wondering and you can do your work.
8. The Power of Thoughtful Expression: When and How to Speak Up
Friends, one important point is that it is not necessary to always stay hidden, not to speak. It is not that you have taken a vow of silence, these things to remain silent should be according to the situation and circumstances. Where it is necessary to take your stand, to give your answer, give your answer there. Answer with clarity and after thinking, it is necessary to speak in limited words.
There should not be repetitions again and again, do not speak in wrong situations, do not discuss, do not argue, do not fight. But where it is necessary to speak, speak. Answer, give a clear answer, that you prove it, I will do whatever you say. If you cannot prove it, then I can also put four accusations on you without proof. But my standard is not like this, so it is very important to answer sometimes.
9. Actions speak louder: the power of doing than saying
Our actions have a language which is clearer and better than that. No matter how much you speak, your actions will always be above it, so believe in taking action. In taking big decisions, in choosing the path of distancing people, in getting close to people, in taking actions through people’s nature and behaviour, and actions, i.e. beating someone in anger, are actions so that such a situation does not arise in the future. Your time and energy should not be wasted. If there is any commitment, then prove it by making commitment. Commitment will not increase by making promises again and again. So try to speak as much as you can through your actions, show love as well as anger. If you want to distance someone, do it through action, it is better.
10. Embracing Peace: A Wise Path to a Blissful Life
Make a policy for your life, I need peace of mind. My mind has to always remain calm and happy. To be in a peaceful state is to be blissful. To stay away from useless fights, arguments and toxic people. By doing this I do not become small, I do not become a coward, I become wise. My life has to be lived well, I should not argue with any stupid fool, I have to keep moving ahead on my path. He said whatever he may do, I will keep moving ahead on my path until he runs to bite me.
Conclusion:
By adopting these habits, you can break free from the patterns that hold you back, allowing for personal growth, better relationships and, a more fulfilling life. Embarcing change and letting go of the things that keep you silence can lead to better self-expressions, confidence and overall wel-being.