When you get scared, you are in a state of panic. You are scared, but the world is not scared. The world is stable. The world is as it is. If this panic is only in your mind, then the world has not turned upside down, only your mind has turned upside down, only your mind has become unstable, then this panic is in the thoughts of your mind.
This is not in reality. This is not the truth of this world. It is very important to realize this. And realize that whenever you are scared of any subject, thing, person, situation, then the only reason for that is that you have overestimated its value. Its worth increases many times more than its status. Otherwise there is no need to be scared of any subject in this world. If you consider a mouse to be a bear, then running away in fear on seeing those small mice who keep roaming here and there without doing anything, then panic will arise. This is its fault. The fault of doing something in it is your thinking that you considered it so big.
You misunderstood and a Fight or Flight Response was created inside you. Those hormones started forming which cause panic so that you can run away or attack quickly, meaning without any reason you started the engine of the car, put your foot on the accelerator and started racing, kept moving the car forward and just kept wasting fuel. This is a state of panic.
Nothing happened, it does not have the power to ruin your life, to finish it. Who has the power to do so? Things are not as bad as they appear to be. Most things are a part of a bigger process, temporary, they come for some time, then go away, you suffer, and then go away. Most things have come to make you stronger or you get so caught up in a moment that you consider it to be very big. Because it has no life. If I fail in a subject, if I fail in a year, then my life is over.
You are seeing that it will have no value in the next ten years. You must have moved on. Because you get caught up in it and as you get caught up in a moment, whatever subject matter is there at that time, whatever is important, whatever is negative, it keeps on becoming bigger. You cannot see life beyond that and now you get scared. And the more you think that it will be bad, the more the probability of it being bad is very high. Friends, nothing so bad happens in life if there is evil. Otherwise you would not be alive today.
For so many years, a lot of bad things happen in a single moment in a single day. Most of the things have been good, only then you have been able to reach here.
And realize, did the thing you were worried about last week come true? Did all the things come true or did the bad thing that you were worried about come to a halt after that and you were unable to move forward. You moved forward. Before the exam you were thinking that I will commit suicide. I will not give this exam and will fail in it. Even if you fail in that exam, you will still move forward. Your career is also set. Realize anything in life that the fear that you had earlier, the wrong fear, was not needed. That was just a mental state in which you made one thing very big. Realize that today the circumstances may be a little odd.
If there is a possibility of something bad happening, then realize that it can also be good. Its result can also be right. I do not want to make a mistake. The result is in the hands of time, whatever the day has to show, it will definitely show. I cannot do anything.
So why should I think bad from now on, why should I suffer that pain in advance? When it comes, we will see the time, we will move forward. And whenever I have thought bad in life, bad happened, it did not happen, sometimes good also happened, so give yourself solace from this thought also. And even if any thing is bad, even if it is in hand in life, even if there are evils, even then they are not so big that because of them I spend my whole life in panic, trembling, in contradiction with myself, in restlessness. No subject has such power in this world. Even if you snatch everything and send me alone to the forest. Even if you snatch everything, all are relations. Money, wealth, position, even then that life is better than living in panic.
So even while living here today, even while enjoying facilities I will not live in panic. The situation of panic should not be seen like the world. It should be seen as a temporary situation, whatever has come will pass. I am feeling nervous, I have to stay calm, this is not going to harm me and let it pass. I am not feeling that I am away from this, it is coming forcefully, it doesn’t matter. Everything will pass.
Life is a river, no one can stop it, no one can stop its effect. No matter how good something is, it will go away, no matter how bad something is, it will also go away, no matter how small something is, it will also go away. No matter how bad the circumstances are, how big the loss is, you have lost someone, you have not got what you wanted, everything will pass with time. You will adjust to every new time, nurture happiness, move forward. This world has made you capable of this. Life has made you capable of living without every situation, without every luxury, without every comfort.
You have been given so much power, use that power and keep flowing with life, stop trying to stop the flow of life, we will live. Whatever happens now, we will see, what more can I do. I have done my duty, I have made enough efforts, the matter is over, why are you burdening yourself.
Why are you holding your own neck? Love yourself. This whole world will be against you, the situation will be against you, so at least love yourself. I will hold my hand, I have to keep my mind calm. Living every moment peacefully, the presence of consciousness inside me, my breathing, my being energetic, is above every comfort, every relationship, every subject of this world. If this is there, then life is there. Every subject of life is only because of this, otherwise every subject of life will just get lost in darkness.
The moment you lose your breath, no matter how big a subject, how big a tension, how big a fear you have, will turn into nothingness. This is its status. So understand while you are alive that you will enjoy happiness, the mind will remain calm. So when life breaks you down, takes away everything, then go back to your roots, go back to originality, breathing, living each moment, doing your part, surviving. Live each moment mindfully, observing nature, experiencing through the senses, that is what you have to do, live to do your work. At this moment, your only task is responsibility, to live. To be present in this moment in life.
Keep all the subjects aside. Friends, a very good way to get rid of the feeling of nervousness is surrender. When you do not do anything, nervousness is because you think yourself to be the doer of your life, your circumstances, everything and you are failing, failing, not getting anything, then you are nervous because you feel that I can do something, I am not able to do it, I should do something, I am not able to do it. Then you get nervous, then only those thoughts arise in you that what should I do. Stop controlling things, stop trying to control if such a situation goes away. Withdraw your hand and disappear from the thing.
Become invisible to the world, consider nature as your mother and hide in the lap of the mother for some time. She will see something, let her also see something, let her also handle something, you do not have to handle anything. When you are unable to handle, nothing is happening, circumstances are not in your control, that is why you are getting nervous, then let things happen on their own for some time.
This life also knows something about you and the best place to dedicate yourself is the best place, the best place from the best existence, your God, whom you believe in, trust. Tell him, I have dedicated my life to you today. O God, I am unable to handle. I am in panic, I am worried, I am in restlessness. You see, I am free, I will do my work, I will make efforts. But you see how to handle life, how to correct it. For now, problems will come, I will bear them too. But you see how to settle life. From today, my life is dedicated to you, dedicated to your devotion.
I will live only for you and no one else and this is not to be said, it is to be felt. By doing good deeds, by doing good to every living being, you have dedicated yourself to the devotion of God. By giving time to God, by remembering him again and again, by remembering God in every moment, by remembering God in every problem, and become free.
Surrender yourself to the one who is the creator and destroyer of everything, every subject. He is the one who ends everything. He is the creator of every story, he is the one who confuses you, takes you to your destination. He knows your life ten times better than you. So leave everything to him. When you are not able to drive this car. The road has become so bad, then the professional driver, who is teaching you driving, has brought you to this seat, give it to him for some time so that you can drive.
I am sitting quietly behind you, trusting you completely. See how nervousness disappears from my mind. Friends, what is, is the truth. The world of your dreams is not true, it is your thinking. What will happen will happen. No matter how much you think, go mad, get upset. What has to happen will happen. Don’t run from it, don’t avoid it.
You have to live in the real world, live according to it, adjust, do your right deeds. If today’s circumstances have made you needy, have put you in panic, have made you weak, then you have to take care of yourself. It is your responsibility to hold your hand, to care for yourself, to lift yourself. Not to change the circumstances, but to lift yourself, to hold your own hand. No one will care about you in this world. After a few days, everyone will leave you. If you lie in depression and panic for four days, people will ask you, then you will start minding your own business, even your own people will start getting irritated with you. So instead of getting stuck in situations, it is better to hold your own hand.
Become your own. I will not let myself become so weak for this world. Whatever happens, whatever does not happen, this world, whatever the day will show me. Whatever I am destined to see, I will see it. I will live like a warrior and die like a warrior. No matter how crazy I become, how much I try, how much I hit my head against the wall, I cannot change the truth.
What is to happen cannot be changed. So why should I try to change it? Why don’t I become free? At least in today’s journey I will remain free, I will remain happy, my mind will remain calm, I will be able to live. Whatever has to come in time, will come in time. Why don’t I leave it for that time? Whenever you start feeling nervous, that feeling is arising suddenly. Of extreme anxiety, of fear, immediately realize that this feeling is not true, this is not the world, this feeling is arising, is increasing. It will grow and become a part of my life.
It is not just because of a trigger that I am seeing a big trigger. Whether something happened in my past, I have suffered a trauma, or I am very afraid of something, because of that that thing, related to it, any thing has become a trigger. And because of that that feeling of nervousness is arising. If you had an accident with a car, you will start getting nervous as soon as you sit in the car.
So realize that the nervousness is not true. I have a feeling because of that accident. Otherwise lakhs of people are traveling in cars, they are absolutely safe. Many people start getting nervous while walking on the road. A car will hit them, something bad will happen. Because something like this would have happened to them nearby. Once the trauma has set in, then it seems that the same thing will happen in the world. So realize that I have come out on the road, lakhs of people have come out, nothing bad has happened. I have gone there countless times, nothing bad has happened. Because something bad happened once, this nervousness is arising. Never mind, this feeling will calm down on its own. I have to keep doing my work. Whatever happens will happen.
The more you resist your feelings, resist the truth, run away from the truth, try to avoid it, the more nervousness you will develop. The more you keep accepting the truth, the more you keep accepting the future, the more nervousness will go away. Meditate on God’s name, whatever nervousness you are feeling. O God, I have blessed you, you will see to it.
And friends, never feel guilty for your depression, anxiety, restlessness, nervousness. You have not committed any sin. This can happen to everyone, no matter how strong a person you are, this can happen to everyone. You are not weak, you are not wrong, you are not useless. This situation has come, the most difficult situations come in life. It doesn’t matter, this can happen to even the most spiritual person. Life had to show you this day, so it showed it, it doesn’t matter. Understand this situation deeply, face it, surrender to God and do your work, let this emotion, this feeling, this sorrow, this nervousness, flow away. It is not yours. It is not of this world. It is just a stream that came to flow and will flow away.
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